Conflict Got You Down? Be Grateful!

There’s a powerful connection between humility and gratitude.

When I approach a relationship with humility, it becomes easier to recognize another person’s skills, talents, and contributions. And when I’m intentional about being grateful for those things, it reminds me that I don’t have all the answers or all the strengths.

I think of it as a cycle: humility creates room for gratitude, and gratitude helps me practice humility.

That can be especially difficult when there’s conflict. When I’m frustrated or upset with someone, my attention naturally moves toward what I think they did wrong. It takes an intentional effort to remember what I appreciate about them.

One practice I’ve found useful is gratitude journaling. Take a few minutes at the start of the day and write down five things you’re grateful for. Rather than rushing through the list, pause to consider why each one matters to you.

If you’re in conflict with someone, consider including something you genuinely value about that person. It won’t erase a disagreement or replace a difficult conversation. But it may help you approach that conversation with a little more understanding.

Gratitude doesn’t require us to pretend everything is fine. It invites us to recognize that another person is more than the frustration we feel in one moment.

Who are you struggling with right now? What is one quality or contribution you can honestly be grateful for?

Your coach’s insight…simply put.

— Rory